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D.i.v.o.r.c.e

I remeber as a kid siiting on my grandma's porch in the summers listening to Elvis, Peggy Lee and Patsy Cline. They were so easy to sing along with and they all had a story. One that stuck with me though was the infamous D-I-V-O-R-C-E by Tammy Wynette. ​

I couldn't really spell so I would just sing along, but as I got older and I finally figured out what she was spelling I also began to understand the story she was telling. Divorce was unspoken to protect the kids and she. really didn't want that D-I-V-O-R-C-E.
In the Bible it talks about divorce, in a pretty bad way. (Not that it isn't, don't get me wrong) But being divorced we are called adulterers, and sinners we may already be this one commandment always seems to haunt me.
     My former marriage, hmmm, well let's say it was more a legal arrangment  more then a Godly commitment. (but that is a different story)
      Today divorece has become more then a catchy tune or a the hushed scarlette letter women wisper about in the grocery store.
      It has become such a common thing, for a child to come from "a broken home" that policies have been put in place for "these types of situations"
       ~Side note, if you are in an abuse marriage or relationship, get out. God wants the best for you and being harmed is not one of the things he wants for you.~
      But if you are hung up on him not putting in his fair share of kitchen duties or she annoys you with her nagging and OCD... That is not a reason for divore (or cheating.) It mean forgiveness and hard work are tools you need to aquire.
    Having been on both sides, leaving for safety and putting in the work (dispite how Mr. R. sometimes drives me nuts) gives me better understanding and perspective. Remember, you didn't marry someone perfect and you are not perfect either. You both came flawed and a little bruised from life. But it is those things that played a part in making the person that you fell in love with. The wierd bathroom habbits, they once made you laugh. Her OCD gave you the structure you needed. There is a balance and somedays you will have to carry a little more then your spouse and somedays you will need to lean on them more then you'd like, but that is what marriage and life is  all about. Give and take, highs and lows, laughter and tears. So, if you are at a point that you want to throw in the towel, dig in your heals and get dirty. Think on this
                
                If you want to get warm
                       you must stand near the fire
                You want to be wet
                       You must get in the water
                If you want joy, power, peace, eternal life
                       You must get close to or even into
                 The thing that has them.
                            ~C.S Lewis


We all have choices and chances, will you choose to take a chance, maybe say your sorry, or that you need them and love them and are willing to make it work.